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NO, we have not yet set a date. Why? Ask Peter. We will, probably after he gets back and finds out what is in store for him in the navy.
We talked about ideas for it, discussed a lot of options- locations, foods, drinks, colors, themes…there are so many choices and I am so thankful that he wants to be involved (yes, he wants to be involved. sometimes- partially, well sorta…) even though it is going to be a pain in the ass because he doesn’t think the same way I do. I try to think logically while he picks one subject, completely out of the blue. The alcohol, for instance… He wants to buy all the alcohol as soon as he gets back and went on and on about how much we will need and what kinds of alcohol we will buy.
My response was, hey, we haven’t yet determined how many guests we’ll be having. We don’t know where we’re having it or if that place will even alllow you to buy the alcohol yourself. He continued to talk about the alcohol…
I attributed this preoccupation of his to deployment and the fact that he hasn’t had alcohol since his last port so it’s obviously going to be on his mind.
Then he launches into his need to have a priest there. Uh, since when are you catholic? He knows I am agnostic, I have discussed my views on religion many times but his beliefs are rather foggy to me as he has consistently refused to explain what, if anything, he believes despite my constant pestering. But all of a sudden a priest is required. I asked him why would he want the person pronouncing us husband and wife to believe that he is going to hell & I’m going to pergatory for the way we live our lives? I tell him I really don’t want to be married by a priest and list reasons but he can’t tell me what the reason is he needs to be married by one?
That was months ago. More recently and out of the blue he suggested doing somethig smaller and with a justice of the peace…?? Uh, ok.
I really miss him because negotiating is so exhilarating in person, while via email it just seems useless. Plus, I can calmly debate my way to a win over him most of the time.
This is an awesome thing for me because the realization that I have learned that just screaming and yelling to get my way never led to productive or meaningful communication or lasting relationships previously. I now appreciate the difference in opinion and I absolutely feel that when Peter and I debate something we come up with something better than either of us could have ever imagined on our own. How mature am I now??
I just remembered my last post from an hour ago…whatever. I’m mature!
I found it! THE DRESS…I saw it in April in the window of Christian Michi (King St., Charleston, SC) but I was too hot to stop that day. The store carries exclusive clothing, one of a kind jewelry and elegant home decor items. It is not a place I could afford to shop regularly. I was certain that the dress would be out of my price range but it was so different than anything else I had tried on or seen I couldnt get it out of my head. So I figured I would try it on when I returned to Charleston. I thought it would either not be the right dress or if I liked it, I would be inspired to find something less expensive but similar.
So when I went back, Krisann and Mom were with me and I asked to try it on. They pulled the dress out of the window and Mom spotted a Bolero that matched. We were escorted upstairs and I was shown a dressing area, behind a large folding screen where I took the opportunity to check the price discreetly. I was flabbergasted to find that both pieces together, the dress and the bolero, were under my budget!
I slipped into it and I felt like a woman. For the first time in my life, I didnt feel like a child, or a teenager or a young lady. I felt like a woman.
There was no mirror behind the screen but I started shaking and after I walked out and saw myself in the mirror I knew & said, “This is the dress, it’s the one” and started crying. I looked at Mom & Krisann and the helpful salesperson, Sharlene. They were all smiling, saying how beautiful I looked.
I bought it that Friday and it is currently sitting at Mom’s house, out of the way of menacing claws and cat upchuck.
Once we set a date and it is closer to the wedding, I will bring it home to be altered. I think about it all the time and it has completely inspired my previously nonexistent bridal mind. I have made pages of notes about exactly what I do want at our wedding and Peter and I are discussing plans now. I don’t expect that we will set a date prior to August or September, but I will let everyone know as soon as we know.
It is by a spanish designer I had never heard of before. There are no wedding dresses by her that I can find and I was told by Sharlene at CM that they bought everything they could from her. It is a one of a kind dress like nothing I have ever seen. It is a creamy cotton fabric with hand stiched details and I think it is romantic and elegant. My own couture masterpiece!
These are dresses I have tried on at several locations. None of them are ‘The Dress’.
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